What's the Breakdown?
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So, what's the breakdown? Do you think relationships should be 50/50 when it comes to household responsibilities?
I say without shame and without resentment that I am (mostly) okay with the fact that I do 90% of the housework. I really, really appreciate when J pitches in to help, but let's be honest...I clean so much better than he does. One might even say that my cleaning habits are, how you say, "anal". J's cleaning habits are, "I'll load the dishwasher...hey! There's a pretty bird!" I can't tell you how many times he calls me and tells me he's cleaning, and I come home to two dishes less in the sink and a boyfriend wandering aimlessly around our 800 square foot apartment looking for his volleyball stuff.
It's really ok. There are just things I do better. And there are things HE does better. He is an amazing griller, I suck at it. He's really good with computers, and he's very, very kind and patient. So he does that...stuff.
What do you think? What's your breakdown?
Reader Comments (5)
I do most of the cleaning, but Josh pretty willingly helps when he's home. He takes out the trash pretty much always, and scoops the litter boxes at least once/day (I do it the other time). He also does all the heavy lifting for me... moves furniture and hangs shelves and the like. He also doesn't complain (much) when I get into a cleaning kick and ask him to help by doing A, B, C, D, E, and F.
i can agree with you there! men just aren't that great at cleaning. although, if you wanna look at my twin sister and her new husband, turns out HE'S the clean freak. he wakes up early on saturdays, doesn't waste any time with that "sleeping-in" nonsense. my sister on the other hand, sleeps till noon, wakes up, and he's done all of the housework already. not a bad set up. BUT that's a rare situation. i think, between my boyfriend and i, i'm definitely better at cleaning. i can't say i'm not somewhat of a slob myself though. but a man has no idea how utterly awesome it is to watch them clean. even if they're just trying. too cute.
great blog :) i can't stop reading!
Thanks so much for stopping by!
My boyfriend was a tad offended by this post until he realized it was true. But yes, watching them clean...or try to clean, is adorable, and it means a lot. :)
We try to go towards 50-50 in our relationship. I clean the bathroom, the kitchen, and Daniel vacuums and cleans the living room.
Sometimes I feel so sorry for him, because I know he really hates doing chores but I ask him to do it anyway. I don't want things to "slip" towards me doing all the work and him getting lazy!
No, I get that...I am definitely not a maid, and I do expect everyone living in a household to help out. I once had a friend who was all upset that her husband never helped with the baby, but then I watched her bitch him out for "doing that wrong" every time he breathed. OF COURSE he's not going to want to help.
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