True Love?
EMAIL THIS ARTICLE I've been pondering over the issue of "true love" lately...is there really ONE person that is right for everyone? Or is love simply a factor of hormones, attraction and being in "the right place at the right time?"
I think it's both... I believe for some people, there is such a thing as "true love"...a love that is easy and natural, that transcends time, that says, "No matter what could have been, we would always meet each other". It's a love like a Shel Silverstein book, and someone has found their "missing piece".
I believe for others, it was a matter of being a certain person at a certain time, and finding another person who fits that person in that moment...and then the two people grow together, becoming different people, but together all the same, and this love is harder than the first. And, if these people had met after they became those different people (yeah, yeah...stick with me, here) that love may not have happened.
But I also don't want to polarize...love covers every shade of gray, from the mundane to the truly perplexing. I just started reading this blog, though, that fits the first "true love" category. It follows a man who lost his wife last year on the same day their first daughter was born. His heartache, written in a jolting, yet haunting poem, moves the reader in a way that you, too, feel as though you have lost something precious. (Just wait'll you feel what it does when "liz" occupies her own line).
Do you believe in true love?
Reader Comments (7)
i don't know if I believe in true love. but I do think that C and i fall into both of the situations stated above. I think that we were the right people at the right place at the right time. Thank you again!!! We are not who we were 8 years ago, Thank God, that e was nuts! Just the same, C has changed too! even though we are not growing and changing at the same time....because we are committed to each other and to this relationship, it works. thanks for making me think about things that I would not think about otherwise.
I don't know anymore...I used to think true love was out there, that I was someone's knight is shiny white armor but now...I just don't know.
Yeah, thinking about this topic is making many situations make a lot more sense to me. I dated a guy awhile back that was PERFECT. I mean, perfect chemistry, perfect conversation, even the PERFECT kisser...we just "got" each other. It just wasn't the right time, and maybe never would have been. Very, very weird situation, where for all intents and purposes, it should have worked, but didn't.
Of course, E, always happy to take credit for your happiness. :)
In my 36 years of life where I thought I had fallen in love a couple of times..that I believed love could happen more than once to you..
Then I met a match who could romance my heart, mind, soul and body all at the same time. Never could I believe that such a man could exist... but he did.
I could give up my most loved thing up to make him happy but he did not want it. He could not recognize if it was love or friendship what he felt for me.
Setting him free was the most difficult decision of my life... we have no interactions with each other but I still wish him to return or maybe love me forever as I do
I have made a conscious effort and been into a few relationships after that but I do not feel the deep emotions for other men as I feel for him..
One truth I have learnt about myself in due course of time ..... true love happened to me and it happens only once in a lifetime
In my 36 years of life where I thought I had fallen in love a couple of times..that I believed love could happen more than once to you..
Then I met a match who could romance my heart, mind, soul and body all at the same time. Never could I believe that such a man could exist... but he did.
I could give up my most loved thing up to make him happy but he did not want it. He could not recognize if it was love or friendship what he felt for me.
Setting him free was the most difficult decision of my life... we have no interactions with each other but I still wish him to return or maybe love me forever as I do
I have made a conscious effort and been into a few relationships after that but I do not feel the deep emotions for other men as I feel for him..
One truth I have learnt about myself in due course of time ..... true love happened to me and it happens only once in a lifetime
I believe in both types of love you've described, and consider them both to be true. I love this blog, thanks for RT it on twitter. :)
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